Since the time I have learnt and mastered NLP( Neuro Linguistic Programming), I am constantly in a process to apply it in my life and I am so glad, its really producing Results! Amazing!
I usually dont like to share my personal life and experiences as blogs..till this incident occured. One day, I happened to share my experience with my friends on a closed group on facebook just to express my happiness and as a medium to acknowledge them all for thier encouragement.What happened next just amazed me. I got a email a few days later from one of my friends saying
" Prajnal, thanks for posting your experience that day..It gave me the courage and inspiration to deal with [......] situation in my life when I needed it the most! Everything is going amazingly well now. Thanks so much. Lots of love".
I was pleasanlty suprised..WOW! if this is what Sharing could do..I want to share my life..cause I am sure someone is experiencing a similiar situation.. If not inspiration, I am sure someone out there may atleast say " Aree..Me too! Same pinch! We are sailing in the same boat and feel a little relaxed! :)
So I am starting a series of blogs here sharing my experiences of using NLP-a powerful technique!
I am pretty close to my parents:- I can hug them, laugh with them, be mad and discuss new concepts and get excited, share our dreams and enjoy! But talkig about certain things like marriage , boys would make me feel uncomfortable... I thought , I could never openly share such things with my parents ( out of respect, anxiety, fear,'would they understnad?' belief and awkwardness). Most people in thier teens or twenties feel that way, I guess!
But somewhere there was this strong urge to speak out my feeling, thoughts, dilemmas etc to my mom who I know will understand me prefectly well and can guide me..Offcourse, they are the only people I am accountable too; as of now,who will genuinely think of my best and if they are by my side...what else do I need in this world?? Nothing..There was nothing to hide from them...but whenever this topic came up...Even a confident and talkitive women like me ...would sit all quite and frozen..staring into no-where-ness! Awkward man! : I was mentally preparing myself to talk to my parents..I would rehearse in the room, talk aloud while travelling and do all the mad things..
One afternoon,I was anxious and nervous sitting right next to my mom .Suddenly, all I imagined and thought was the process of 'Centre of Excellence' in NLP..I thought of all the qualities I wanted while interacting with my parents..and created My Centre of Excellecene..I imagined it and felt it through my body and changed my posture..With all the courage and qualities I had now embibed.. I cleared my throat and started off.. Mom and I spoke at length that afternoon and ever since we have had many such conversations..we have laughed, joked, pondered, pulled each other's leg, debated,analysed,had the typical mad girly talks and blushed! :) Its been a liberating experience..Now, there is nothing I need to be apprehensive about.. I can frankly talk to them about anything..The trsut level between us has sky rocketed.. and Obviously, a darling wife that my mom is..she went and spoke to my dad..and now he also sometimes joins in the conversations..sometimes, he is thoughtfully and sometimes, he is all so cute..:)
Nothing in the external surrounding has changed..but I finally broken the Ice with my parents and bridged the gap...I realised something powerful - It's just a mental barrier! The moment we decide to be frank and honest in a relation, we let the relation blossom...sometimes, the truth may hurt--but it always helps! All the people closest to you, deserve to know the true you! It's okay - to share your shortcomings, dilemma's or have a different view point..But its essential to have Authentic relations..Many relations can break apart or cause uneasiness for sometime, but the people invloved will always respect you and you will never fall in your own eyes...To YOUR HIGHEST SELF, YOU WILL BE TRUE! ...I am at Peace with myself now on this front! :)
I hope my experiences inspire others to take ACTION in thier lives..and I would love to hear your experiences too, my dear friends..So post them here..I am sure there is someone out there waiting to say "Me too" or "Thank you"
........Each day, In everyway...I am getting better and better.......
