My Experience using NLP: Breaking the Ice with my parents

Since the time I have learnt and mastered NLP( Neuro Linguistic Programming), I am constantly in a process to apply it in my life and I am so glad, its really producing Results! Amazing!

I usually dont like to share my personal life and experiences as blogs..till this incident occured. One day, I happened to share my experience with my friends on a closed group on facebook just to express my happiness and as a medium to acknowledge them all for thier encouragement.What happened next just amazed me. I got a email a few days later from one of my friends saying
" Prajnal, thanks for posting your experience that day..It gave me the courage and inspiration to deal with [......] situation in my life when I needed it the most! Everything is going amazingly well now. Thanks so much. Lots of love".

I was pleasanlty suprised..WOW! if this is what Sharing could do..I want to share my life..cause I am sure someone is experiencing a similiar situation.. If not inspiration, I am sure someone out there may atleast say " Aree..Me too! Same pinch! We are sailing in the same boat and feel a little relaxed! :)

So I am starting a series of blogs here sharing my experiences of using NLP-a powerful technique!

I am pretty close to my parents:- I can hug them, laugh with them, be mad and discuss new concepts and get excited, share our dreams and enjoy! But talkig about certain things like marriage , boys would make me feel uncomfortable... I thought , I could never openly share such things with my parents ( out of respect, anxiety, fear,'would they understnad?' belief and awkwardness). Most people in thier teens or twenties feel that way, I guess!

But somewhere there was this strong urge to speak out my feeling, thoughts, dilemmas etc to my mom who I know will understand me prefectly well and can guide me..Offcourse, they are the only people I am accountable too; as of now,who will genuinely think of my best and if they are by my side...what else do I need in this world?? Nothing..There was nothing to hide from them...but whenever this topic came up...Even a confident and talkitive women like me ...would sit all quite and frozen..staring into no-where-ness! Awkward man! : I was mentally preparing myself to talk to my parents..I would rehearse in the room, talk aloud while travelling and do all the mad things..

One afternoon,I was anxious and nervous sitting right next to my mom .Suddenly, all I imagined and thought was the process of 'Centre of Excellence' in NLP..I thought of all the qualities I wanted while interacting with my parents..and created My Centre of Excellecene..I imagined it and felt it through my body and changed my posture..With all the courage and qualities I had now embibed.. I cleared my throat and started off.. Mom and I spoke at length that afternoon and ever since we have had many such conversations..we have laughed, joked, pondered, pulled each other's leg, debated,analysed,had the typical mad girly talks and blushed! :) Its been a liberating experience..Now, there is nothing I need to be apprehensive about.. I can frankly talk to them about anything..The trsut level between us has sky rocketed.. and Obviously, a darling wife that my mom is..she went and spoke to my dad..and now he also sometimes joins in the conversations..sometimes, he is thoughtfully and sometimes, he is all so cute..:)

Nothing in the external surrounding has changed..but I finally broken the Ice with my parents and bridged the gap...I realised something powerful - It's just a mental barrier! The moment we decide to be frank and honest in a relation, we let the relation blossom...sometimes, the truth may hurt--but it always helps! All the people closest to you, deserve to know the true you! It's okay - to share your shortcomings, dilemma's or have a different view point..But its essential to have Authentic relations..Many relations can break apart or cause uneasiness for sometime, but the people invloved will always respect you and you will never fall in your own eyes...To YOUR HIGHEST SELF, YOU WILL BE TRUE! ...I am at Peace with myself now on this front! :)

I hope my experiences inspire others to take ACTION in thier lives..and I would love to hear your experiences too, my dear friends..So post them here..I am sure there is someone out there waiting to say "Me too" or "Thank you"

........Each day, In everyway...I am getting better and better.......

..and I happily cried by the beautiful lake -side...

It was my second evening at The International Youth Forum ,Russia 2010. The excitment of coming all alone to Russia and as a part of the Indian Delegation had settled but my heart and mind had not..A million toughts were racing in my mind..

.. there I was sitting on the beach of the most beautiful lake of Russia-lake Seliger,after a day full of learning, with the evening colours casting a magical spell, so many young girls and boys all around --playing beach volleyball,trampolin, swimming,music , kayaking,surfing.etc.etc It was a perfect atmosphere anyone in thier teens would crave to experience...not that I wouldnt enjoy it too..but my mind was seeking for something more stronger, deeper...

I sat silently on the wooden achoring pathway jutting out in the lake..on one side was the view of the entire beach filled with "Masti" and the other view of the serene lake,the church on the island on the other side.. though CONTRASTING, it was alomst a perfect setting for me to reflect on my life, on myself..

( Its interesting but so true , that when you are away from the place u call home, from the people you call you dear ones, u tend to reflect on every incident and person of your life, from a non-judgemental, 3rd person, unbiased view..because all the things that could prejudice you - our society, culture, everyday-issues,competitive spirit among ppl, ill feelings,the system etc etc ---they do not exist at that point and place!)

I wanted to pour my heart out to someone - there was a storm inside me - but by my side ,my dear ones were not there to lend a shoulder..and sudddenly, amidst the crowd ,I was lonely..I perfectly now know what that feeling is...I looked at the horizon, but I knew I was miles away..my eyes searched in vain - I was alone..and then slowly down came my tears..I silenlty cried by the beautiful lake side....not even wanting to wipe my tears..

...I thought abt life,the choices I had made , my dreams and purpose behind them..I wanted to thank all my family ,friends and hug them(see the next upcoming post -What's freedom to a free bird?)

..and then I thought of my Parents -- I knew my mom must have thought of me and possibly let down one tear,wondering how I was and I had yet not got my Russian Sim card ;(.. they had agreed to send thier young girl all alone to Russia, to place where I just knew no one--Not a Soul! Now, this was a wonder because I had barely even travelled from Pune to Mumbai all alone..:) THAT WAS MY MOMENT OF REALISATION-- "my parents now consider me a matured young women who knows what she is doing..they trusted my capabilities, they believed in my dreams..they now felt thier girl was ready to face the world all alone, absorb,learn, fall,get up and grow -" Dad had said "its time to fly dear..go see the world, live your dreams and make a mark " -- Mom's words rang in my heart "go beta, we believe in you! I know you will make the most out of it"! I so wanted to run and hug my parents..all I could visualise was thier smiling faces-- proud of me!!

I think that one of the most awesome feelings as a child, and as a young adult comes when you know your parents can take you at par as an individual...when they believe in the dreams u see (however unconventional they might be..), and when as a person -you earn the title of being DEPENDABLE!!

Tears were still following down my cheeks, but there was a sense of happiness, of fullfillment and most importantly of gratitude!!! That vaccum inside me was now full with satisfaction..A renewd sense of Passion and determination fueled inside me..and the wind was gracious enough to quickly wisk away the tears on my check..

I was not felling alone anymore..all evening,the lake was accompanying me..the storm inside me had calmed down and so had the lake, revealing its true depth and magnimity...and though the evening hue was giving way to darkness..inside me, the Flames of Passion had lightened up my SOUL!!

I knew..I had become a bit more Stronger, a bit more Matured and a bit more Dependable!

To Be Or Not To Be...

Blogging really never appealed to me cause I saw too many people making their lives so public!!! (Is that really needed for getting more followers??--almost another mirch masla newspaper)......till I read some beautiful blogs--that absolutely changed my viewpoint!!!

To share something personal from your life is not so easy, rather uncomfortable..cause its like letting someone read your personal diaries...till i realised that i need not, but yet could share my viewpoint!!!

To be or not to be --was the question??

TO BE OR NOT TO BE....thats the big choice!!! Infact, thats the most precise and all pervasive choice we always have in every phase of our life...The answer can change ur life --FOR THE GOOD OR THE BAD!!!

Its the question I have asked myself a thousand times, and still continue to do so--but im more than glad--cause only the Urge, the Quest for that Right answer, the Call, the Restlessness and finally the breakthrough can bring about great transformations, brillant ideas and better individuals...

and Im sure it will work for each one...as it continues to do so for me.

So I set out on the journey of blogging today and the best are yet to come..
Im a blogger today...

I CHOOSE TO BE.....